The Reddit community recently supported an obese woman harassed by a couple after she wouldn’t give up the extra airplane seat she purchased.
Tessy23, a Redditor who is obese, often purchases two airplane seats for herself while flying alone. What’s the reason? She does not want to impress or bother other passengers to enjoy her flight. Her hopes were dashed recently when she encountered the situation she had hoped to avoid.
A viral post on Reddit by Tessy23 explained she purchased an extra seat next to her own to ensure comfort during the flight. Redditors exchanged thoughts with the original poster.
“AITA for not giving up my second “free” seat next to me in the plane?”
I am obese. Like I am comfortable having two seats in the plane type of obese. I am well aware of that and I really don’t like to bother people with my weight.
A week ago I was going to a conference by plane and because I was going alone (usually when I fly with my boyfriend I don’t buy two since he sits next to me) I bought two seats. I fit in one but my side is usually touching the person next to me and I feel uncomfortable for them. It happened to me that they gave me nasty looks and I felt extremely uncomfortable the whole flight.
So I sat down in the plane and put the armrest up so I would be really comfortable. Some couple came and they both sat next to me because they got separate seats and they noticed the seat next to me was empty. Exactly what I was afraid of happened. My side kept touching the guy next to me and he even pushed me a bit when he moved in the seat. I was feeling extremely uncomfortable and asked him if he could go to his seat because I bought this one for my comfort. He told me no, since the seat is empty and he wants to be with his girlfriend. Well, I told him I understand but I feel uncomfortable and I paid for the second seat so exactly this doesn’t happen. He refused again and started to chat with his GF. I called the flight attendant and quietly told her what is happening. She asked the guy to leave my second seat and he and his GF gave me a nasty look. The GF mumbled something like “Fu***g fat bi**h” under her breath but nothing directly to me.
So Am I the a$$hole for insisting on him to leave?
The post received more than 3400 responses; we have collected some of the most interesting ones below:
flaky-burnt: NTA! You bought that seat. The couple sitting apart has nothing to do with you. IDGAF if you were thin and bought a 2nd seat for your emotional support ghost! That’s your seat.
31anon5: NTA. They tried to take something you paid for and then were rude to you. It’s a bit shocking, really, considering the number of people who comment on social media that larger people should have to buy two seats. Please don’t feel bad about yourself because they chose to be horrid and entitled.
F0zzysW0rld: NTA – It wasnt a free/available seat. You purchased it, you bought the seat so it is “occupied”.
DishsUp: NTA: you paid for that seat, it’s your seat and frankly airplane seats are too small. I was on a flight last week, I bought it last minute and ended up with a center seat in the “basic” cabin, the cheap seats on United flights ( at least on this plane ) don’t have movable arm rests, my hips hit both armrests( read walls), it was very uncomfortable. I wear a women’s 10/12, after that experience I will always buy 2 seats if I’m in the back or at least never settle for less than business class.
Aylauria: NTA. You were the opposite of the AH. You paid extra for the comfort of yourself and the person next to you. They were both AH. They could have accomplished the same goal by have her swap her seat with the person sitting next to him. But they didn’t want to. Not your problem. Give it no more thought.
jaelythe4781: NTA. You PAID for two seats. They were being entitled AHs for not even asking permission.
For you for the future, there is NOTHING wrong with informing people who try to sit in your PAID FOR 2nd seat that it IS your seat even if it’s currently empty and they need to sit in their assigned seats or ask someone else to switch. Or they could PAY for assigned seats next to each other in the future. If you don’t pay for seat assignment, you don’t get to complain about not sitting next to each other or bully someone else for their seat.
BaffledMum: NTA. For heaven’s sake, if he’d been assigned to sit next to you, he’d have complained you were too big. But if you get an extra seat so as not to bother him, he feels entitled to your seat. Why didn’t the girlfriend ask boyfriend’s seat neighbor to switch? No muss, no fuss.
ThePeoplesPoom: Firstly, I’m sorry people have given you nasty looks and treated you poorly. No one should be shaming you for your body. Second, you are DEFINITELY NTA. You already paid for your extra seat (already very courteous) and you were respectful and discrete in having him removed.
FangirlSuelo: NTA, I know the feeling because my mom was overweight my whole life and she’d tell me the stories of her flying solo and even with me she’d have me sit in the seat next to her. But I’ve seen the stares and dirty looks too, I’ve been getting the looks lately too if I’m flying alone and even a little of me spills to the side. They need to either plan better, or ask in the first place if they could sit there. When you said you were uncomfortable and then they blew you off, then you did the best thing getting the flight attendant. You’re not at all in the wrong here for standing up for yourself.