A woman has blasted her mother-in-law after she fed her 10-week-old baby ice cream without her permission.
Earlier this week, the anonymous mother, believed to be from the US, shared her dilemma on a Reddit forum devoted to helping people navigate relationships with their partner’s mothers.
Providing some context to their recent fall-out, the woman explained how her mother-in-law has ‘never truly liked her’ and even referred to her as an ‘incubator’ throughout her pregnancy.
She wrote: ‘She’s always had this thing of trying to control my husband and make my input or advice seem wrong or like I don’t know what I’m saying or doing.’
Insisting that she’s not making it up, the woman says even her partner’s grandmother has told her daughter to start ‘being nice’ to her.
While she was pregnant, the woman says her mother-in-law ‘never really checked’ in to see how her or the baby was.
However, she says that her partner’s mother became preoccupied with the idea of giving her granddaughter some ice cream or cake icing.
She continued: ‘I have noooo idea why. Both my husband and I said no multiple times.’
According to the NHS, products containing cow’s milk should not be given to babies until they are at least six months old as the protein can affect their kidneys.
Despite repeatedly telling her not to feed their daughter, the woman says her mother-in-law sneakily gave her 10-week-old their first taste of ice cream over the weekend.
She explained: ‘I’m assuming it was just the finger-tip full of ice cream. I know this was true because later on she told my husband she did it.’
As a result, the woman says her baby suffered an upset stomach and also developed a rash which has since gone away.
The mother said: ‘Although she is seemingly fine, I can’t forgive my mother-in-law. She knew it was wrong or she wouldn’t have hid.
‘We have repeatedly said no. She’s still too young, we were worried about allergies, and we want to be there for fun stuff like that (when she’s old enough).’
Although the woman’s husband has promised to sort it out with his mother, she says she now wants to cut ties temporarily to teach her a lesson.
She then turned to the forum to ask if she was overreacting to the situation or whether she should go ahead and ban her mother-in-law from seeing her granddaughter for a time.
The woman was met with an overwhelming amount of support from other members of the forum – with most arguing that she was doing the right thing.
One argued: ‘She hurt your baby after years of trying to hurt you. You are very much under-reacting.
‘I would cut ties until she indicates remorse for her behaviour and [your husband] can handle her without getting steamrolled. I recommend couple’s counselling for that second goal.’
‘That should be a deal-breaker,’ another added. ‘If ANYONE does something to or with your child after you asked them not to, [they] cannot be trusted ever.”If any of my parents did that and walked all over my boundaries like that with my kids, it would be game over.
‘I would tell them that they would not be allowed around my kids ever again until they apologised and I truly believed they had changed.’
‘YOUR BABY YOUR RULES,’ a fourth asserted. ‘She doesn’t comply, she doesn’t see baby. It’s like a toddler in time out.’
Speaking from experience, a fifth added: ‘My MIL is like this. She LOVES to undermine my parenting.
‘And unfortunately for her that now means she has lost most privileges with my kids – we are now very low to no contact and she’s not allowed to be alone with them on the very rare occasion we do see her.
‘She whines a lot about how she doesn’t know her grandkids, but if she can’t respect us as parents that’s the consequence, and she’s paying it.’