When parents pass away, their children are the first ones who are sad about the loss. They grieve and feel that their passing leaves a huge hole in their lives. However, the children in this story were not that sad about their moms’ death. The obituary that they have for their mother is surely not something that you will expect from her own children.

The obituary was short and nasty. It was a total of 105 words in five savage paragraphs.

It starts with the birth of Kathleen Dehmlow (nee Schunk) in the winter of 1938 and then her marriage to Dennis Dehmlow 19 years later in the Minnesota city of Wabasso. Gina and Jay are the two children of this couple.

Part of the obituary reads:

“In 1962 she became pregnant by her husband’s brother Lyle Dehmlow and moved to California.”

The readers were shocked when it then said:

“She abandoned her children, Gina and Jay who were then raised by her parents in Clements, Mr. and Mrs. Joseph Schunk.”

And by the fifth paragraph, it is clear what her children feel about their mother:

“She passed away on May 31, 2018, in Springfield and will now face judgment. She will not be missed by Gina and Jay, and they understand that this world is a better place without her.”

The five-paragraph obituary gives people a chance to have a tiny glimpse into Kathleen Dehmlow’s life. And sadly, it is a jaded one. It’s unclear what motivated them to write so badly about their mother for her obituary and to even publish it in the Redwood Falls Gazette.

This is not the first time that we have read obituaries like this.

Marianne Therese Johnson-Reddick’s daughter also outlined her mother’s sins in a 2013 death notice.

It reads:

“Marianne Theresa Johnson-Reddick born Jan 4, 1935, and died alone on Sept. 30, 2013. She is survived by her 6 of 8 children whom she spent her lifetime torturing in every way possible… Everyone she met, adult or child was tortured by her cruelty and exposure to violence, criminal activity, vulgarity, and hatred of the gentle or kind human spirit.”

Also, the essay for Katherine Reddick written by XO Jane is also heartbreaking. Her daughter said that the late Katherine beat her children during hours-long tantrums, routinely hurled whatever was in reach at them, and also encouraged them to steal from neighbors, beat each other, and sleep silently on the kitchen floor while she worked as an escort.

And on weekend nights, she said that her mother would go out on the town, drugging the younger children so they wouldn’t cause trouble and forcing the older ones to subsist on dog food.

Aside from all these hateful words from the family members, obituary confessions are also a thing.

In 2012, Val Patterson, a scientist from Salt Lake City admitted in his obituary that he didn’t actually have a doctorate in engineering. In fact, he hadn’t even graduated from college!

He wrote: “What happened was that the day I went to pay off my college student loan at the U of U, the girl working there put my receipt into the wrong stack, and two weeks later, a Ph.D. diploma came in the mail. I didn’t even graduate, I only had about 3 years of college credit. In fact, I never did even learn what the letters ‘ Ph.D.’ even stood for.”

According to Susan Soper, an expert on obituaries and the creator of a workbook that helps people write their own, “People don’t generally speak ill of the dead. In fact, sometimes they will… put the best possible face on a person in the obituary and overlook whatever the misdeeds or characteristics that might be unpleasant.”

But Soper said that obituaries are not always like this. But sometimes, it is surprising to know that there are plenty of obituaries that have been very honest and truthful about the hurt that someone has caused – or the misdeeds they have committed.

 

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