Woman who’s fed up with her ‘gropey’ husband pestering her for sex fiercely divides opinion – as some claim he’s abusing her and urge her to leave while others insist he’d be ‘entitled to look elsewhere’
- Woman took to British parenting forum for advice on ‘gropey’ husband
- Said he wants sex more than once a week, and is constantly trying to touch her
- Some commenters said behaviour is abusive and urged her to leave
- Others claimed they have mismatched sex drives and sympathised with man
A woman has sparked a fierce debate after complaining about her husband ‘groping her and nagging her for sex’.
Taking to the British parenting forum Mumsnet, the woman explained that she’s been turned off her ‘horny teenager’ husband who she ‘forces herself’ to have sex with once a week.
She said that he wants more and is constantly mouthing dirty comments at her, smacks her bottom if she bends over and puts his hand between her legs if she puts her feet up.
Commenters were fiercely divided with some describing her husband’s action as sexual abuse, saying that she should leave him.
Others, however, said that they seem mistmatched and that a different partner with a similar sex drive might be flattered by the attention.
Explaining her predicament, the woman wrote: ‘I’m basically sick of my husband groping me and nagging me for sex.
‘We have sex maybe once a week and even then I have to force myself. He says twice a week is the norm for most married couples. I disagree.
‘If I bend over, he has to slap my a***. It wasn’t an issue at the start of our relationship but now it just irritates me. Especially when he does it around our son (which he knows I don’t like!).
‘If I go into the kitchen to do dishes, he’ll follow me and want a full on snog fest. If I say I’m going for a shower, he’ll make a crude comment.
‘If we’re sat as family in the living room watching kids shows, he’ll mouth a dirty comment to me. It doesn’t turn me on. It annoys me.
‘I can’t put my feet up on him on the sofa without him thinking I’m initiating sex and trying to put his hands between my legs! When I turn him down, he acts like a wounded puppy!
‘I was really honest with him last night and told him that the more full on he is, the less I want it. He said that if he didn’t ask, he’d never get it as I’ve only initiated sex twice in the last two/three months (true!).
‘I just told him to be less full on. This morning, it was like the conversation never happened.
‘Him acting like a horny teenager all the time is actually giving me the ick.’
Some commenters were shocked by the husband’s ‘revolting’ behaviour and said that the woman is being sexually assaulted in her own home.
‘Every time he touches you sexually when you don’t want him to, it’s sexual assault,’ one wrote. ‘Rapey b*****d. All this coercion and stropping when he doesn’t get to touch you is sexual abuse.’
Another told her to use the words ‘sexual harassment’ when confroting him to get the message across, saying: ‘He needs to know what a pervert he is to you.’
One said that they would withold sex altogether until he drops his 1920s attitude and stops seeing his wife as his ‘property’.
However, she added that she would consisder leaving him regardless, especially because he acts this way in front of their child.
However, others argued that it’s a case of a mismatched partnership, saying that some people enjoy a more sexually charged relatoinship.
‘There’s a lot of women who do like being very gropey and do dirty talking with their partners,’ one wrote.
‘It’s nothing to do with property or being pervy. It’s just how some people show their affection. Your normal is not necessarily someone else’s normal.’
A fellow commenter added that although his way of expressing his needs is ‘immature’, they don’tt hink that wanting sex twice a week is excessive.
‘If you still find him attractive and want to have sex with him, you need a serious proper chat and make it clear what you do find a turn on.’
Agreeing with the poster, a woman in her 60s said: ‘Twice a week isn’t much. I’d be really upset if that’s all I got.
‘If you don’t want sex with your husband at all then he would be forgiven for looking elsewhere.’
‘Me and my husband are very gropey and touchy feely,’ another added. ‘He clearly still finds you attractive. I feel sorry for the poor sod. You’d be better off leaving and letting him find someone more on his level.’