The actress, model, and singer Brigitte Nielsen has and continues to live her life based on her own convictions without ever getting influenced by the limits that society imposes. And today, this 59-year-old is thriving more than ever in her personal life. With her 43-year-old loving husband by her side and their 4-year-old daughter, Nielsen proves that motherhood is about love and not age. And most of all, she is showing us that in order to live a happy life, we need to listen to our hearts and not to what others say.
Bright Side admires the force and determination by which Brigitte leads her life. We’ll share the inspiring story of a passionate woman and a caring mother who had her daughter at 54 and who strongly believes that we should normalize late motherhood.
She already has 4 adult sons.
Brigitte herself once admitted, “I’ve had some strange men in my life.” In fact, the multi-talented Danish artist has had quite a busy love life and has tied the knot 5 times.
Her first marriage was at the age of 20, with a Danish composer, and they have a son together. The relationship lasted 1 year, and her son, who is 37 today, was mostly raised by his dad.
At 22, Brigitte walked down the aisle with the Hollywood star Sylvester Stallone, who was nearly twice her age. She revealed that she suffered from facing assumptions that she married him for money. She said, ’’They didn’t understand that he begged me to marry him. He begged me!’’ 2 years later, however, the pair called it quits.
5 years after the separation, in 1990, the actress married her third husband. But the marriage only lasted for 2 years. The couple didn’t have any kids, however right before they tied the knot, she gave birth to another son with her ex-fiancé. He is now 33.
In 1993, the then 30-year-old married for the fourth time. Her husband was a race car driver, and they have 2 sons together. Their union lasted for a while, but the pair eventually went their separate ways 12 years later. Their sons are now 29 and 27.
Finally finding THE ONE
Mrs. Nielsen was 40, going through a messy divorce and wasn’t really looking for love, yet it came knocking at her door. She met Mattia Dessi, an Italian model who was 25 at the time, yet their 15-year age gap couldn’t stand in the way of their attraction. It was love at first sight, and Brigitte explained, “Mattia walked in, and I literally fell off my chair.”
And Mattia didn’t just sweep her off her feet, he also saved her. She admitted that prior to meeting him, her life was ’’rock and roll.’’
However, the Italian model confessed that he adored her, yet he couldn’t cope with her chaotic lifestyle. So in order to preserve their love, Brigitte had to straighten up her act and lead a healthy lifestyle just like him. She revealed, ’’I’m literally a different person, and that has a lot to do with my husband.’’
Struggling to become a mom again
The enamored couple who tied the knot in 2006 wanted more than anything to build a family together. Yet Brigitte, who was in her 40s, had to face some serious challenges this time around. In fact, soon after meeting her fifth husband, she started planning for their future together by starting to freeze her eggs at age 40. However, doctors gave her only a minuscule 3 to 4% chance of conceiving.
Nielsen noted that her journey to motherhood was “such a long road.” But the couple didn’t give up despite all the hardships, as they were strongly determined to start a family together. And after more than 10 long years of undergoing in vitro fertilization treatments, Brigitte finally got pregnant at the age of 54. Needless to say that the husband and wife, who had been married for 12 years at this point, were over the moon with happiness.
And in June 2018, the Danish star gave birth to her long-awaited baby girl. She revealed that baby Frida has brought them even closer to each other and that the first-time dad is ’’a natural.’’
Breaking the taboo of late motherhood
Becoming a mom at 54 can be shocking to many, and Nielsen is well aware of this. However, she deeply believes that late motherhood should be normalized by society. The actress noted that men don’t receive the same criticism when they become dads later in life.
Talking about her late pregnancy, she says that when people say, “You were 54,” she replies, “yeah, well, what about all the men who are in their 60s, 70s, 80s.” She noted, “Some women think, ’Oh my God, I’m too old.’ Well, yeah, I can understand people saying, ’How dare she?’” She then added, “But how many men have their first kids in their 60s and 70s, and they never doubt it?”
She also revealed, “I get a lot of letters and emails from women who are so excited that I’ve given them the courage.”
She loves being an ’’older’’ mom
Brigitte will soon turn 60, and she’s embracing this new milestone. She says that she’s living her best life now being a mom to her 4-year-old and that ’’staying healthy has become a passion’’ of hers.
She opened up that her initial fears of feeling exhausted by motherhood at a mature age have all disappeared, and that baby Frida gives her “so much energy.” She added, “Since she was born, I wake up excited every day.”
She explained that when men ask her why she doesn’t look tired while taking care of her toddler, the actress replies, “I’m a woman. We mothers are strong.”
And finally, the Danish beauty explained that she found the experience of being a mom more pleasant in her 50s than it was in her 20s. She admitted, “I was 20 years old when I had my first baby, and I was so green, so concerned, so scared. Now, I’m just excited. Now, I can really enjoy myself.”
What do you think of late motherhood? Do you agree that society shouldn’t criticize women who become parents at a mature age, the same way they do with older dads?