They’re acting normal. At least, that’s what they want you to believe. But you can feel it. Something’s off.
Maybe it’s the way they linger a little too long in conversation. Or how they suddenly show up in places they never used to go.
They won’t say it. Won’t text it. Won’t admit that they miss you. But actions? Those tell a different story. Here’s how you know your ex is struggling to let go.
1. They Keep “Accidentally” Running Into You
Really? They just happened to be at your favorite coffee shop at the exact same time? Again? Nah. That’s not random. They’re hoping to bump into you, even if they won’t say it out loud.
2. They Bring You Up In Conversations
You hear it from mutual friends. “Oh yeah, they were asking about you.” Just casually. Just in passing. Except—it’s not. They’re fishing for information.
3. Their Social Media Game Is Too Strong
They’re posting more than usual. Throwing in deep quotes. Maybe even a song lyric that feels a little too personal. And if they suddenly like your old posts? Yeah. They’ve been scrolling.
4. Late-Night Texts That Mean Nothing (But Actually Mean Everything)
“Hey.”That’s it. No explanation. No reason. Just testing the waters to see if you’ll reply.
5. Drunk Texts and Calls
When people drink, their true feelings come out. So if they’re hitting you up after a few drinks? That’s not a coincidence. That’s suppressed emotions making an appearance.
6. They Keep Bringing Up Inside Jokes
You know the ones. The small, random jokes only the two of you understood. And now, they’re dropping them into conversation like it’s no big deal. But it is a big deal. It’s a reminder of what you had.
7. Their Friends Are Acting… Suspicious
If their best friend suddenly starts liking your posts? If their cousin is randomly reaching out? Yeah. Your ex has been talking about you.
8. They Get Jealous – Even If They Hide It
They might play it cool. Act like they don’t care. But if they hear you’re talking to someone new? You’ll notice the shift. Maybe they get distant. Maybe they suddenly start showing more interest. Either way, it’s bothering them.
9. They Haven’t Moved On – Even When They Could
It’s been months. Maybe years. And yet—they’re still single. Sure, not everyone rushes into something new. But if they’re not even trying? There’s a reason. And it’s probably you.
10. They Find Excuses to Contact You
They could have Googled that question. But instead, they texted you. About something random. Something small. Truth is, they didn’t need an answer. They just needed a reason to talk to you.
11. Their Mood Shifts When You’re Around
If they’re extra awkward, extra nice, or just act different when you’re in the same space—it’s a sign. Because when someone’s over it? They don’t act weird. They just… act normal.
12. They’re Still Holding Onto Your Stuff
That hoodie. That book. That random little thing you left at their place. Still there. Still untouched. If they really wanted to move on? They’d return it. Or at least get rid of it.
13. They Watch Your Stories—But Never Interact
They won’t like your posts. Won’t comment. Won’t DM. But they’re watching. Every. Single. Story. They want to keep up with your life—without actually being in it.
14. They’re Trying To “Glow Up” Hard
Suddenly, they’re in the gym. Dressing better. Posting thirst traps like their life depends on it. Is it for them? Maybe. Is it also to make sure you notice? Absolutely.
15. They Haven’t Really Let Go
Maybe they act like they’re fine. Like they’re over it. But deep down? You can tell. Because moving on isn’t about saying it. It’s about showing it. And if they’re doing half the things on this list? They’re still holding on. Even if they won’t admit it.